Deeper-than-surface-level Self-Care

Cosy Sunday self-care is something that I think we see romanticised and idealised in the online space and I partially love it and partially feel like it doesn’t quite cut it for me, and I want to talk about that today. 

The best place for me to start is to tell you a little bit about my Sunday. My day started fine, super chilled and after running some errands and spending a little bit of time with my partner, I very quickly had a moment in which I was deeply pushed to an internal place of discomfort. 

One of the things that I really am aiming for for myself is to feel confident in my independence. Now some days I am 1000% there, and other days I don’t feel like I quite have it down. 

Now today I felt like I really wanted to receive attention and affection and also that I was kind of bored of being sat by myself. 

There is nothing wrong with any of these feelings, they are perfectly normal pieces of human life. I felt them, sat with them, and decided I wanted to work with them. 

What I did was, I decided to have a difficult and open and honest conversation with Dan (my partner) so he could understand how I was feeling. After this, I realised that I actually needed to do some things to nurture myself and my independence. So this look like some deep reflection, cooking something that felt comforting for me, And just really acknowledging my needs and enquiring how I can meet my own needs. 

Dan then lovingly offered to go out together and have some time together which was lovely, and we spent some beautiful time just being together. 

And I knew that was still a deeper piece to heal. 

So when we got back home, he decided to go and work on his car and I decided to have a bath and to spend some time looking after myself in a very physical/beauty self-care kind of way. 

I now feel like a different person than I did when I felt needy for attention, affection and was just bored sitting in my own company. 

I am really proud of myself, and how I communicated my emotions and needs to Dan, but I also then nurtured myself and took action to fulfil my own needs, as well as allowed myself to receive the support of my partner, and continue to also give him the space he needed and give myself some more space and time to heal. 

So you see why I have a complicated relationship with the trendy self-care Sundays – they are incredibly important and have such a powerful place, but they are not the only thing you need to do in order to make impactful change in your life so that you can become the person that you want to be and were born to be. 

Sometimes it takes that uncomfortable reflection and action. 

If you are looking for support on your journey towards becoming the person you are meant to be, allowing yourself to step fully into yourself with confidence, with clarity, and with connection to your soul, then reach out and connect with me. Mentorship is one of my passions and favourite ways to have big impact, and I have several ways to receive one-to-one mentorship from me at varying price points. I’d be happy to share what might work well for you if you send me an email and connect with me.

With love, always,

Darcie